Still, if a player doesn’t have many prospects right now, he may have the time and patience to take it slow by texting you every day. It’s unlikely, but it could happen.
He could just be shy. A shy guy may find texting their crush to be easier than conversation on the phone, since he can think through their responses. He might be a little lonely. A guy who doesn’t have a huge social circle will have plenty of time to dedicate to your text conversations. He’s not worried about playing it “cool. ” Players often play coy when they like someone, but if a guy is dedicating tons of time talking to you, he’s not worried about the way it comes off. He really really likes you. Look, when you’re head over heels, you’re likely to do everything you can to stay in contact with someone. This may be Mr. Right if you feel the same way.
The “wyd” and “hmu if you want to hang” texts are classic player moves. A drunk text—especially out of nowhere—is another sign he may not want something serious. Don’t expect an exclusive relationship from a player.
If there’s a ton of “haha” and “lol” in his responses, you may not be texting a guy who genuinely likes you. A guy who genuinely likes you will do everything he can to get to know you super well.
Your gut feeling means a lot here. If you feel like something is “off,” you may be talking to a player.
For example, “You’re so sweet!” and, “I love the way you always know what to say 🥰” are so friendly and supportive that the guy clearly wants you to feel good and cares. On the other hand, things like, “D*mn you’re hot,” and, “I want to do X to you,” are so forward that it’s obvious they aren’t taking your feelings into account.
You can tell a guy may be a player if he never wants to hang out in groups, too. A guy with genuine interest will totally hang out with you while his friends are around.
If his texts are especially flirty, he regularly texts you first, or he texts you first thing in the morning, he probably likes you. If his texts are super straightforward, he doesn’t flirt, or he doesn’t text you back quickly, he likely just wants to be friends.
Messages you throughout the day. A guy who likes you will text a lot—even when they’re busy. Uses a lot of playful emojis. Emojis like 😉, 😏, and 😇 are all slightly suggestive and flirty. A guy won’t use these a lot if he doesn’t like you. Compliments you a lot. A guy who just wants to be friends wouldn’t put a ton of effort into saying they like your hair, personality, style, etc. Uses pet names or nicknames. If a guy calls you “cutie,” “sweetheart,” or “babe,” they’re 100% into you.
Don’t feel bad about dating a player. There are no “right” or “wrong” partners—there are just right and wrong partners for you depending on your needs. Just make sure you set some checks and balances for yourself before you start dating a player, so you can be sure that they’re honoring your boundaries.
It’s okay for relationships to end. So long as you’re happy spending time with someone when the odds are good you won’t last a super long time, it’s totally fine.
You can always give a player a shot and just see what happens when you start dating. If he turns out to be everything you thought he’d be, move on! Maybe he’ll surprise you, though.
